It’s human nature to want what we don’t have.
My wanting came in the form of golden blonde hair and sun kissed, golden skin to match. It seemed to me that everyone I idolized since the beginning of time had these features. As a child, I wanted to be a pop star like Madonna, dancing along in all of those MTV music videos. When I got a little older, I specifically remember bringing a clipped magazine picture of Meg Ryan to my hairdresser to show her how I wanted my hair cut. She assured me she could definitely cut my hair that way, but it would would look much different on me because Meg was blonde and you could more clearly see her defined layers. In middle school, I tried to do everything I could to make myself look as close to Britney Spears as possible. I loved her music, but also wanted to generally just be her. Of course, there were always some obstacles to this- the obvious ones being that I was pale, freckled, and red headed. Everything I was was just so very unlike Britney. And this realization endlessly frustrated me.
The funny part of all of this is that I actually lived my life like this up until I was 24. Years and years of wishing I was something that I wasn’t. Wanting so badly to be like someone else, so that I could blend in with the rest of the world. For so long, I thought that the most attractive version of me would be the me who could look just like my favorite singer or celebrity. This was what I thought everyone else would also find most attractive.
Surprisingly, my outlook changed over a few drinks at a bar one night, when a friend of mine referred to me as a “unicorn”. I had never thought of it that way before, but I immediately took to the idea that I was a unique, beautiful being.
As a redhead, it’s easy to want what you do not have. I realized though that all of this time, I didn’t have what everyone else had. But I did have other things that they did not! And that is precisely what made me feel special. I hadn’t recognized that I had to embrace being different in order to love my red hair.
It’s always important to know how rare it is to be a redhead. We’re all unicorns.. and should be proud of it. Rock it like a Redhead!